Emo Scene Community

I think with me it was just breaking away from my childhood and loving who I am that made me not care what people think. Now my mentality is "any reaction is good", because at least if people wanna be immature, I get humor from it lol.

Really though, I think it boils down to the fact that I grew more confident in myself, and therefore others can't really put me down. :-)

just be care free 

Most of the ppl who might react rudely are just misinformed, I live in a rural town so I tend to get strange looks too but over time you stop caring about those weird glances.

Also what Ghost_of_Silence said, If someone reacts negatively it's not like said person is going to break your femur bones or anything like that. (Hopefully)

I don,t care that what peoples will think about me because those peoples will never enjoy their life and can not do that which they want so be relax and read the book bay of drowned wishes corsair and enjoy the life.

honestly i've kinda just accepted the fact that no matter how you look/act people will always look at you weirdly if you don't fit into their ideal image. so just don't mind how others think of you and stay weird :D

most days i really don't care. i like the way i dress, i enjoy it. i wear a bunch of different styles and they are all Loud and kind of Obnoxious. so i kind of take it as the price i pay. i try to think of it as i'm a fricken poison dart frog. you Know i'm here and you're goin with me if you poke me.

in general people are pretty chill with how i look now a days. i've even had some older "retired" punks (and hippies) smile. i will get the occasional old person that will sarcastically tell me "nice hair" or "i didn't know it was halloween" but i've heard it so many time i have about 20 retorts to that dumb shit.

i have been in a handful of truly uncomfortable/unsafe situations because of how i look where people thought i was a sex worker and got very aggressive with me. which, even if i was, no way to treat a human being! luckily it always happened in very public spaces so i'd try my best to just flip them off and walk away as fast and calmly as possible.

I'm 30 now and most people tend to think I should have 'grown up' by now. My look has toned down since my teens, but I am who I am and that's emo. 

tbh i think i got made fun of the most when i didn't even look this way, like i got bullied just for having a dead mom n stuff. i feel a lot better being dressed this way bc id rather at least get made fun of 4 something i choose. if u let ppl decide the way u present urself u give them too much control it sux

it took a long time before i felt comfortable wearing whatever tf i wanted bc of how toxic the environment was at my school, but eventually i got to the point where i didnt give a shit and i wanted to wear what made me happy. once u realize that everybody's gonna have their opinion but it doesn't effect u at all, it can be very liberating

They can stare, they can think, they can whisper. Deep down they wish they could express themselves without a care, like you and i and everyone else here. 

just remember... F*ck the preps!!! lolz XD

I'm working on my confidence in wearing what I want and not caring too so I understand where you're coming from man :) Its definitely tough when you feel like people are staring but I just keep reminding myself that I'm not living to conform to what everyone around me likes, I'm living to enjoy my life and im going to wear what I want because life is too short, if that makes sense:D . Good luck! you should definitely continue wearing that nail polish if it makes you feel good, thats all that matters!:)

Have I ever felt anxious or unsafe for dressing “emo” or “goth”? No. But I have felt unsafe for the exact same reason you’ve felt anxious for painting your nails. My advice is to keep being you. Let the haters do their hating. I hate to be the type to say “they’re only jealous” but it’s true. We are taught to believe that one of the worst things we can do is cross the boundaries between what’s seen as “masculine” (muscles, short hair, deep voice, being assertive) and “feminine” (small body, long hair, makeup, nail polish, soft-spoken) so when they see someone do that, they respond with fear and hatred because they wish they were brave enough to do what you’re doing

I’ve only just started to become who I am supposed to be at the age of 30. There’s a lot of contributing factors as to why I am a very late bloomer in the alt lifestyle but I’m not afraid what people think of it tbh, people just expect weird from me I guess 🤣