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x_beyondparanormal_x
Posts: 130
Please help me, I need some advice... Oct 22 2012, 03:23 PM
How do you tell your alcoholic mother that you're gay and you're in love with your best friend? I'm scared Please help Anyone?? j_j

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Emo Pictures - Xolivia-von-sodomyX
Xolivia-von-sodomyX
Posts: 510
Oct 22 2012, 08:01 PM
thats a hard call but you really need to be your self and dont let others judgements interfer or you will never be happy. i think you just need to have a talk and tell her how you feel let her know this is who you are and their is nothing that can change that. and she can ethier be loving and supportive or she can do the oppistie ethier way it wont change who you are or the disisions your going to make. make sure to let her know you care about her but you have to be yourself. talking to an alcoholic can be really hard i would try to tell her this when she sober or less drunk so you not talking to the bottle as much. let her know your still the same person and you care about her which is why your talking to her about it but you need to pursue what makes you happy.
nobody_cares
Posts: 253
Oct 23 2012, 01:40 PM
Well she's your mum. She should love you no matter who you love. If you're scared about how she might react then maybe wait a bit longer. Or drop some hints about it for a while and then tell her, so it's not so much of a shock.
Emo Pictures - JCGenocideofNormal
JCGenocideofNormal
Posts: 266
Oct 23 2012, 01:42 PM
You seem like a really awful person Nata... There was nothing disrespectful about what was said here...If someone is an obvious alcoholic, THEY ARE AN ALCOHOLIC. Not every parent deserves respect, some parents are utter shit. And if you think that someone who is constantly drunk around their kids deserves respect? You got problems...And YOU are the disrespectful person, the OP obviously has more feelings than you do otherwise you wouldn't be a dick about their situation..
LedaLovesLollipops
Posts: 114
Oct 23 2012, 01:45 PM
Um I agree with JC, My mum is an alcoholic and deserves nothing near respect nor does my step dad. They are both shit parents (Luckily i live with my real dad now) and In regards to your problem. All you can do is be real about it. If she doesn't accept it you have to move on. Nothing should stop you from being in love and being happy
LedaLovesLollipops
Posts: 114
Oct 23 2012, 01:55 PM
So I suck? Okay I was just making sure. It's not like you repeated yourself 7 times. and No they never fed me. I fed myself. and Yeah bro. I was about to ask around the site if anyone knew where I could get an 8-ball of meth? Hit me up! ;) xx
LedaLovesLollipops
Posts: 114
Oct 23 2012, 02:00 PM
What I am? A human? Not bro? Okay. Nigga You don't know anyone's stories around here. So shut up. You're also like 30. Don't you have something better to do? Like a job? No you're on a website. Made for 12-18 year olds.
LedaLovesLollipops
Posts: 114
Oct 23 2012, 02:04 PM
Alright brah. Just stop. No one asked for your input and She didn't even put disrespect on her mother she stated she was an alcoholic. So Just go be old or whatever you do.
LedaLovesLollipops
Posts: 114
Oct 23 2012, 02:07 PM
Yeah cause I'm fucking 15 you illiterate imbecile. I can't drive. Thank you captain obvious it is clear that you are white. I said that to be a dick and piss you off. It worked.
LedaLovesLollipops
Posts: 114
Oct 23 2012, 02:10 PM
No. I can't because I don't have a fucking license. Fucking idiot.
Emo Pictures - Xolivia-von-sodomyX
Xolivia-von-sodomyX
Posts: 510
Oct 23 2012, 05:42 PM
REALLY GUYS!!??? a girl is really having a hard time with her life and need some help and all your going to do is bust her nuts and eachothers? thats not what this is supposta be about ethier you have some nice genuin advise to give or you dont comment. for people that dont like being judged your pritty judgemental.
FlamingBlackSkull
Posts: 464
Oct 24 2012, 08:36 AM
Alright. Okay. I'm not going to even comment on the utter BULLSHIT nata always posts. To the issue at hand: I agree with the suggestion that you try and wait when your mother is sober or mostly sober to tell her. Her feelings will be everywhere when she is drunk, so waiting is the best option. Then maybe you can have a real conversation about it. If she reacts negatively, just know its not you, its her own narrow-mindedness.
x_beyondparanormal_x
Posts: 130
Oct 24 2012, 12:30 PM
Dear Nata, I am not about to start an argument about this, I'd just like to make a few things clear I am against drugs, My sister was found in the Emergency Room on drugs and I almost lost her, she's been taken away from me now because my mother doesn't take care of us. She's nothing to disrespect. She gets drunk and angry and she NEVER fed me. I've had to live for myself and make some money of my own to but food for myself and my little sister so you can't call me a brat or disrespectful or lazy or whatever you were saying.. she even left me in the middle of the train track when I was little because she doesn't care you have no right to be rude to me when all I did was ask for help. I'm lost, that's it. I need a little guidance. I would expect that a 30 year on ojn a 12-18 year old websit would at least have an idea for what I should do Get to know your facts before you go judging people And whatever you argue back, I'm gonna ignore. So, thanks for replying, but I could have gone without the rudeness. Everyone else: Thank you so much for your help, I've decided to wait a few more years to tell her as I am still 13 and a child, I think she'd listen to me better in the future. Thank you, honestly it means a lot. ~Jessi
FlickerOfHope
Posts: 189
Oct 24 2012, 07:26 PM
right nata to be honest i love my parents more than anything in this world, however from a mature point of view, i wont hide there faults especialy if I need to talk to someone about it. Nata if paranormals mother is an alcoholic it does make it harder for her to say that she is gay, cause the alchol would add a whole new dimension to the situation! She wasnt complaing about her mother, she was asking for help! YOU have completely turned around and shut her down when she genuanly needs help! in my eyes thats the real fault here! I respect my parents to the utmost degree however if I needed help with somthing i would tell everyone the whole story so everyone could undestand the situation and give the best possible advice!
FlickerOfHope
Posts: 189
Oct 24 2012, 07:33 PM
Im sorry about all that paranormal, if you want my advie i sujest that you slowly make it obvious! ive known a few alchohlics in the past and sudden changes can cause a fit of rage or agression so personaly i would slowly drop little hints here and there about your orientation! and then once you are a little older then tell your mother directly, but for the time being just take it slow, so that way when your older and you tell your mother strait out it wont shock her as much! :) hope this helped!
zenia101
Posts: 219
Oct 24 2012, 09:53 PM
flickerofhope is right that is something that would cause a huge outburst expecially if she is already against gays....just do wat he says and kinda show it more than say it and if she asks then tell her the truth and i am so sry to hear about ur mom hunny my foster dad drank a lot so i no it's hard but im here anytime u wanna talk!!!good luck!!!♥

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