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Nemo_xo
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I should be happy for them... right? :/ Apr 07 2011, 12:02 PM

Yeah, well. This is a long story. :/ As some of you may know I'm not the most confident person in the world. -_- But still, hearing a guy say that he likes you when you tell him that you like him is nice. Me and this guy had been friends for about three years now, and things seemed to be going well. Then randomly, I get a text from one of my friends. "Please don't hate me!" Oh, don't be silly, why would I hate you? XD "Me and (said guy)are going out. Please don't be sad!" Don't be sad? Are you serious? ¬¬ And then a random, if slightly drunken text from him saying that he loves me and that I'm pretty so I can do better. -__- And what's even worse is that he's only seen her once, they met at a concert and she lives five hours away from here, so they're effectively dating over facebook. But I feel so awful, like I should be happy for them. :/

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FlamingBlackSkull
Posts: 464

Apr 07 2011, 12:44 PM

WARNING: This is going to be long. Maybe I'm a cynic due to my past...Maybe I'm just evil and like to kick puppies in the face...(haha jk)...Or maybe I'm a realist. Whatever you'd like to call me, you probably shouldn't listen to me because I'm baised and I hate everyone. I would not feel happy for them. I would loathe their very existance. I would be angry because I *you* have known that guy for three years and she only met him once. I would say to her, Yes! I hate you, you...-CENSORED- And you don't even have a real relationship because it's over facebook and and and then I'd be pissed at him for saying I *you* where to good for him and say, oh, you think my friend is ugly then? (even though I'm mad at her too) And then yell at him for that just because I can. So um...Anyways! congratulations on you being the bigger person! :) (Because obviously I'm a childish jerk...) By the way: You shouldn't have to feel happy for them, I don't think. You shouldn't force yourself to. It's okay to be annoyed/angry for a bit, just don't let it control you. How long could it last anyways?

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DizzyDotRocks
Posts: 830

Apr 08 2011, 09:29 AM

I'm actually having the complete opposite problem at the moment... but still... I can completely understand why you'd be pissed off. But, in reality, he's not worth your time. As for your friend... I'd give her a chance. She could be genuinely so head-over-heels smitten that she doesn't truly realise her mistake. I've been in that situation before, and although I never got with the guy (loooong story), I know that when you're really smitten but you really care about your friends feelings too, it kills. But, if she DOES really care, she'll try to make it up to you. For instance, she will mention him as little as possible. She will make sure she puts away a decent amount of time to spend with you. This is what I would do, at least. So... give her a chance at first. :)

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EmoDancerLol
Posts: 169

May 09 2011, 09:11 PM

You don't need to be happy for them. Forcing yourself to do that will result in depression. I've been in the same position however I was hanging out with them every day as the third wheel/thingamajigger. And witholding my emotions like that really did result in me being depressed. I was more just meaninglessly doing whatever was my daily routine and seemed washed out.

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