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divinelove
Posts: 79
best friends?(long read) Jul 25 2011, 03:02 PM
okay the story is that my best friends emily and katie are well, becoming annoying and controlling and i kno thats mean but their really stressing me out. they HATE my boyfriend and my boyfriend HATES them cause he feels that they are annoying and controlling which i never beleived. katie moved to florida so ive been with dealin with just him and emilys fued which has been killing me cause emily stops being my friend till i break up with him but i didnt so she gave up on that then shes always accusing me of lying and hating her and avoiding her. im really annoyed with it cause its not true and ever since shes been doin that my boyfriend starts doin it cause he starts hatin her more and more. when summer started things started goin okay again till katie comes back for a bit and emily tells her her story and now katie is all hating me and accusing me of trying to loose all my friends and it seriously ticks me off cause i kno what im doing i kno that im not a person who likes to hang out with people all the time like them and i kno i dont want to loose anyone. they think i dont care about anyone or anything except my boyfriend which is soo not true and i just dont get why they want to make me so miserable and stressed if their my best friends. its really just a repeating cycle over and over and overrrr and im so sick of it. i dont kno what to do anymore excpet tell them what they want to hear and bottle everything up now. when my best friends hate me my boyfriends their and loves me so dearly. when me and him are fighting they tell me to break up with him and all that stuff. im just so tired of all of it...

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Voltaire
Posts: 146
Jul 25 2011, 03:15 PM
Have you tried settle it? Why do they hate him? Why do he hate them? other than what you explained of course, i see no reason for him to hate them other than that, and because they try to ruin it for you. Just tell them how you feel and that you are not like them, you don't like to hang around people 24/7 "neither do i but my mum keeps nagging about it all the time and it pisses me off". If they feel like you're avoiding them and they won't listen try telling them that sometimes you need time alone to comprehend with the everyday and life, that it's not easy for you that they want you to break up with him and that it breaks you down slowly "in an emotional way of course" just be open and try to figure it out, i see no reason for them to hate him. "unless he's a meanie" >.<
FlamingBlackSkull
Posts: 464
Jul 25 2011, 04:37 PM
...Tell them the whole worlds doesn't revolve around them. Unless they have a legitimate reason to hate him, they shouldn't. Have you asked them WHY they hate him? Listen to what they say, maybe you aren't seeing something and they are. If it is a stupid reason, then maybe they really aren't your friends.
divinelove
Posts: 79
Jul 25 2011, 07:49 PM
i have tried several times its been goin on for a year and a half. its kinda his fault to be honest cause he judged them from the start that they were manipulating and such and i tried and tried to show him the good in them but it never worked so thats one of the reasons they want me to break it but their are a couple of his friends i cant stand, its natural to not get along with some people. me and him have been thru pretty bad fights and ive come crying to them a few times and ive ben hurt to and it builds more and more hate for them cause they only hear the bad things never the good, they pretty much block the good things i tell them about him and twist it around to be bad. emily just called my boyfriend asking if i was actualy going to ohio this weeekend which i am to see if i was lying and i was just astonished that she called himmm the guy she hates like hell rather then trusting me. ive told them how ive felt and that i can deal with my problems and i just need a bit of support but they are my only close friends that i actualy talk to so its sooo hard to pull myself away from them yah kno? thanx for the advice very much apreciated(:
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Lost_and_Unfound
Posts: 92
Jul 25 2011, 07:56 PM
Okay well If they have a real reason to hate him then I say take your friends words for it. Understand that if you side with your BF then you might lose your bestfriends, ask yourself who will be left if you lose your bestfriends AND you break up with your BF... Then who will be there for you? You won't have the Friends or the BF. I'm going though something very similar believe it or not... Odd coincidence finding this post is... However if they have no reason to hate him then they need to relax. Chances are they have a good reason and they are just trying to be your friends looking out for you. People often get very blind when they are in a relationship and it isn't until they are broken up that they see how wrong everything was. There is a reason the "chicks before dicks" and "bros before hoes" motto's exist, they are there so you don't lose your friends... BFs and GFs are barely permenant in this modern day, Bestfriends on the other hand are almost always going to be there for you... that's my 2 cents.
divinelove
Posts: 79
Jul 25 2011, 11:52 PM
i completly get what your saying and theyve told me the same things and i guess i just dont want to accept it cause im so in love with this guy even if hes put me in hell i cant help it... hes my first love lost my virginity to and has introduced me to a whole new person i never new i could be. i beleive they blow this wayy out of proportion sometimes tho and thats what gets on my nerves, i love my friends and i need them but sometimes i feel like it be a whole lot easier if theyd let me handle some things on my own, its okay to have their opinion but when they leave me and make me feel like shit everyday i cant help but go torwards my boyfriend, course they dont do that all the time only when things seem to be going good they do...i hope im not coming off as a total biatch ive just been holding this in for a long time.
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JojoCupcakeKillerrxD
Posts: 1222
Jul 26 2011, 11:26 AM
So basically you have jealous friends... and your boyfriend makes it worse by being mean to them because they're being idiots... I'm sorry. The whole bunch needs to grow up. Have a sit-down, and tell them all that they're all at fault, and that it's stupid high school bull shit. They just need to learn to get along. Harshness not intended :)
divinelove
Posts: 79
Jul 26 2011, 11:36 AM
exactlyy thats what i thought lol when i try telling them what i feel they go all i like hanging out with my boyfriend more and hes more important and id choose him over them, which i do adore hanging with my boyfriend hes absolutly lovely and i probly do hang out with him more then them cause im not really into the same things as them but their my best friends so they expect me to be with them more. ughh high school does friggen suck D:
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nikkiwest
Posts: 2440
Jul 26 2011, 12:34 PM
I don't even have to read this all to tell you this... if the three of them want to fight and argue like they are, then they obviously aren't worth your time
divinelove
Posts: 79
Jul 27 2011, 12:05 PM
i wish it was that easy but i love em to much to hate them id feel so lost
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JojoCupcakeKillerrxD
Posts: 1222
Jul 27 2011, 02:58 PM
Actually it's worse than high school, it's almost junior high, the way your friends are acting :/
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nikkiwest
Posts: 2440
Jul 30 2011, 02:59 PM
I know what you mean... they're the type of people that you can't live with and cant live without

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